Buddhism and LustNov 20, 2020
Student: What’s wrong with lust?
Zen Master Bon Soeng: It takes you away from your true nature.
Student: Isn’t it a natural feeling?
ZMBS: Is it? How do we know what’s natural? We think we have an idea of naturalness, but we don’t know naturalness. Maybe we’ve been doing it for so long that we think it’s natural, but we don’t know. Lust is an intense desire.
Student: Sexual desire, right?
ZMBS: You think of it as sexual desire, but it doesn’t have to be sexual. If you listen to the way I said the precept, the precept isn’t against sex, it’s against lust. Lust is when you use and abuse somebody else to satisfy your desire. It’s when you’re so full of desire that you’re not aware or concerned about its impact on the person you’re with. Buddhism tells us that it’s so easy to fall into delusion. I can make up a story to justify it, I can even pretend that it’s okay, but if I’m not aware and attentive to how my desire is impacting the other person, then usually I’m afflicting pain and suffering on that person. For some people, it’s lust for food. For some, it’s lust for power. Each of us has our different desire that grabs us.